ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY

ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY

  • According to Hindu traditions, the engagement ceremony is done a few months before the marriage. This ceremony is a formal announcement of the impending marriage and the start of the planning for the big event.
  • The father of the groom requests the father of the bride for the bride’s hand in marriage with his son. The bride’s father wants to make sure that the groom has no skeletons in his closet. Having confirmed that, the bride’s father also tells the groom’s father to make sure that his daughter is also as good, if not better than the groom! Thus after mutual satisfaction and
    “Wagdaan”, and a promise for the marriage, the bride’s  father tells all that he will plan the ceremony at an appropriate date in the  future.  The couple exchanges the wedding  rings and the ceremony ends with best wishes and blessings from all the  attendees. In some customs, they prepare a “Lagna Patrika”, a written promise to each other to perform the ceremony at a future date.
  • The engaged couple will be referred here as bride and groom, although they do not become so until the pre wedding ceremony a day or two before the actual  wedding.
  • Engagement Vidhi
  • ✔ Sankalpa and Poonyahvachanam
  • ✔ Request by the Groom’s father for the bride’s hand for his son.
  • ✔ Bride’s father’s approval.
  • ✔ Bride’s father and his daughter propose the marriage at the
  • ✔ appropriate Muhurtam.
  • ✔ Groom’s father and his son reconfirm the proposal.
  • ✔ Bride worships Shachi for the success of the future  marriage.
  • ✔ Mangal Aarati of the bride by 5  women.
  • ✔ Bride and the Groom exchange the  rings.
  • ✔ Formal engagement Announcement, Ashirvad, Congratulations.
  • The ceremony should last about 45 minutes.
  • Graha Shanti / Grahamakha or Grahyadnya or Devak
  • The Graha Shanti is typically done a day before the formal marriage ceremony so that maximum number of outside guests can attend the function. The primary purpose of the pre wedding rituals is to kick off the religious and social festivities leading to the marriage ceremony. These rituals are known by various names such as Devak, Grahamakha, Graha Shanti etc. These rituals are typically done separately by the boy’s and girl’s parents in their own homes. However, they can also be done together, if necessary, especially if non Indian parents are interested. It takes about an hour to set up and one hour to do these rituals.
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